Couples’ Retreat

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How you approach your relationship will greatly impact your reaction to problems when they arise. Do you view marriage as a contract based entirely on your feelings or as a long-term commitment knowing your feelings will ebb and flow? How you answer this question is very important. 

Both partners bring weaknesses and shortcomings into their relationship. Before long, these areas of brokenness interact and create vicious cycles. Do you know your areas of brokenness and how you're contributing to the problems in your relationship? 

Sharing power means both partners have an equal voice in their relationship on all decisions, both big and small. Are you controlling and refuse to share power or are you passive and give in too easily? Both tendencies are toxic and need to be corrected.  

Is your partner your best friend? They probably were at one time but as needs went unmet and resentment mounted you detached. Everyone enters intimate relationships expecting that their “needs” will be met by their partner. Is this a misconception or are we looking at it through broken lenses? Learning to work through resentments and foster emotional closeness is a core part to a healthy relationship. 

Improving your sexual intimacy is difficult if you are not emotionally connected first, which is why this step comes after developing emotional attachment. Cultivating sexual intimacy is vital to a healthy relationship and these steps provide the keys to get there.  

You and your partner both have a love bucket and certain behavior fills it up and certain behavior drains it. Learning what those behaviors are then intentionally doing them is vital to developing a loving relationship for years to come.